Dealing with "Mommy's Law"

Do you ever have days that you wonder, "Why did I get out of bed?"  I think everyone has those days; but Moms have the added stress of dealing with little ones on those days.  A two year old has no concept of a "bad" day!  They go about their day:  singing, skipping, and living life to the fullest.  While you just want a little peace and quiet.

Leaving your house to run errands can turn into a nightmare on those days you are struggling.  Just getting ready to go involves challenges:  finding shoes, hair ribbons, a hairbrush, favorite baseball cap/toy, or getting teeth brushed; all the tasks you do routinely when going somewhere with your child.  But on a "off" day or a low energy day these tasks are challenging and frustrating.  You just want your child to find their shoes and they are nowhere to be found.  If you’re running late the stress level skyrockets for everyone; forget "Murphy's Law" you are now operating under "Mommy's Law" -- If you are late your child will be uncooperative.

By the time you have your child and/or children buckled in the car or car seats you may feel like crying.  But the fun does not end there.  You still must drive to your destination.  If you have never had the experience of driving with a fussy child and/or children on a "off" day emotionally be very thankful.  When you factor in traffic, a noisy child and a distraught Mom you have a recipe for disaster brewing within the confines of a small space.  How can you divert disaster?  Personally I am an advocate of a sound proof clear wall separating the driver from the passengers; but since that is not going to happen how can you cope?  

First of all remember they are only small children, there behavior is not a personal attack although it may feel personal.  I am not a fan of entertaining small children by placing them in front of a TV; but I am a fan of peace and quiet while I try to drive in traffic!  If you are able to purchase a DVD player for your car you will avoid numerous grey hairs popping out when traveling with children; whose sole goal is to get a response from you:  positive or negative. Add headphones to your shopping list (for the children not you) so you do not have to listen to the "Lion King" four hundred times. Garage sales are a good place to find affordable electronics. If you are like me and live in rural America shop online.  

Music does calm the "savage beast" or in this case the "savage child", so if you have kid friendly music now is the time to play it.  Personally I have every Disney song and Dr. Suess book memorized; an accomplishment that society may not value but a skill that has allowed me to raise seven children and remain relatively sane.  If you have older children bring along the Dr. Seuss books, even if your older child cannot read they can entertain younger children by making up stories or just looking at the pictures.   My children loved the "Where's Waldo" books in fact they loved them so much not one of the seven or eight Waldo books survived my children.  Another good option is any of the Usborne books "Things to Spot"  these are similar to the  "Where's Waldo" books but they are wonderfully illustrated books of animals, bugs, sea creatures and other fun subjects that list things to spot on each page.  To be honest these books are fun for the whole family.  We spent hours sitting on the couch trying to find that one last sea urchin.   These books did survive my children but they are held together by Texas glue:  Duct Tape.

Hungry or thirsty children are unhappy children so be prepared.  Convert an old diaper bag into your travel bag and grab a few juice boxes or bottled water before you head out the door.  You can keep Ziploc bags of cheerios, pretzels or every child's favorite "gold fish" in the bag; so if the TV, music and favorite toy does not work you can try snacks.

So when you are struggling and cannot avoid confinement in a small place with small loud human beings preparation on your good days will pay huge dividends.  If you "fail to plan" you "plan to fail" so pack your travel bag and equip your car with DVDs, CDs, books, toys and most importantly snacks!  You still may not be able to calm yourself or your child but at least you have a fighting chance.  Most of all remember they do grow up and as they get older you will have peace and quiet in the car because they will have on headphones listening to music and you may even long for the days that they wanted to "talk" to you.  They grow up fast so cherish the moments.